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School – the hospital way

One of my favourite memories of our pre-admission waiting time is when I asked M to tell my Mum what was going to happen once he was in hospital.  I had, of course, expected him to explain, in depth, all he knew about the NG-tube and the pellet study, but roared with laughter when he said, in a small voice lacking in any great enthusiasm, “…hospital school…”

indexThe first few days of our stay were dominated by the administration of  the huge amounts of powerful laxatives and M felt so unwell that he refused to move from his bed.  By the end of that first Sunday, however, the tedium of not being allowed off hospital premises had taken its toll and he was keen to head off to school on Monday morning.  The hospital school accepts that the children may not be able to attend a “full” day there and is happy for any child to be there for as long as they are able to manage.  Each day is split into 2 sessions:  10am to 12.30pm and 2pm to 3.30pm.  They cover the basics of maths, literacy and science, but also throw in other subjects such as IT, art and even PE.

indexI discussed with the teacher there all of M’s needs concerning his dyspraxia and dyslexia and we talked about all he’d been learning so far at his home school.  He was one of just 4 children in the Key Stage 2 group during his admission and was able to have a huge amount of one-to-one teaching as there were 4 teachers able to work with the group.  They tackled his lack of enthusiasm for literacy by signing him on to the “Bug Club“, an on-line learning resource which tested his reading comprehension skills.  Each time he was able to read a new passage and answer the questions correctly about what he had read, he received a virtual sticker and was moved on to the next text.  He was set up with his own username and password to monitor the development he was making in class and what’s even better is that they have given us all the details needed for continuing with it at home.

M's amazing chocolate Christmas creation

M’s amazing chocolate Christmas creation

Every morning, M was keen to get up, get ready and get down to the classroom for the start of the school day.  I have never seen him so keen to arrive at school and start working! He had a busy week there and he enjoyed every single moment of it.  From History with the Victoria and Albert Museum to Cookery with the Executive Head Chef of the Hilton Hotel, it was a school week unlike any other.  He even took part in the school’s carol concert in the GOSH chapel, where he read part of the Christmas story.  It proved to be a great distraction from everything else that was going on medically and an amazing opportunity for those children who have to stay in hospital.

Here’s to 2015

That’s another year done, more adventures experienced and new lessons learned.  We’re starting 2015 with a positive outlook – the switch to NG-tube and elemental feeding has already started to see some health improvements for M and we finally have a plan for moving forward that will be looking for the root cause for some of his health problems.  Both children are happy and settled at school and G is looking ahead to moving into secondary school in September. We’ve met and made friends with several of the lovely FABED families and have been able to help raise funds and awareness for this charity and the condition it supports.  I’m not sure what 2015 holds for us all, but, if nothing else, I’ve learned to hold tightly to my hat as it’s certain to be a bumpy ride!

Wishing you all a happy, ssuccessful and peaceful 2015.  May your wishes and dreams be fulfilled. 

 

 

Children in Need

Courtesy of www.bbc.com

Courtesy of http://www.bbc.com

If you live in the UK, I doubt you could have missed the fact that it was recently BBC’s Children in Need.  For those of you who reside elsewhere in the world and are wondering what on earth I’m talking about, Children in Need raises money for numerous charities, large and small, who work to bring much needed help to children across the UK.  The evening is celebrated with a TV extravaganza, which sees celebrities singing, dancing and otherwise performing as you’ve never seen them do before, all in the name of fundraising. Children in Need has been running for over 30 years and since 1980 has raised well over £600 million for the children it supports.

This year it set the theme of “Be a Hero” and G and M, as well as thousands of other school children across the UK, were invited to come to school dressed as a hero.  The options were endless and as we walked to school that morning, we passed Superman, Spiderman, Tinkerbell, Violet Incredible, Harry Potter and Florence Nightingale to name but a few.  I’m always interested to see who my two will choose to dress up as, not least because M’s costume almost always inevitably involves some late night sewing and creating by me.

20141114_082807G, after a short discussion with Mike about what her options were, settled on dressing as Princess Leia from the Star Wars trilogy, a choice that fortunately didn’t need much more than a few minor adjustments to the base layers we had.  A long-sleeved white long tunic, a pair of white leggings, her brown boots and a chain-style belt accompanied by the iconic hair-style of 2 coiled bun over her ears and she was dressed and ready for anything the galaxy threw at her.  She was delighted with her costume and I was impressed that it came home almost as white as when she went to school in the morning!

 

20141114_082832With G’s decision made, I waited nervously for M’s choice of hero, fully expecting him to have chosen someone far more complex, which would leave me scrabbling around for clothes to meet his exacting requirements.  So you can imagine my surprised delight when he went for what is possibly the simplest, but most meaningful choice he’s made in years.  M wanted to honour his very own hero, his gastro consultant at GOSH, Dr H, who has made such a big difference to his life over the last 3 years.  We put him into a pair of home-made scrubs and Mike generously donated a white shirt, which I adapted to be his doctor’s white coat.  A printed name badge declaring him as a “Consultant Paediatric Gastroenterologist” from GOSH finished the look.

Once school was done for the day, we raced home and changed into their onesies, ready for an evening at Stagecoach, before spending the evening at my Mum’s for dinner and the best of BBC light entertainment.  The night raised over an amazing £32 million with more money still to come in and be added to the total.  This will make a big difference to the children it can help support and it’s never too late to donate – just click on this link.

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Beating the Bullies – Anti-bullying Week 2014

November’s proving to be a busy month, what with Armistice Day (11th), Children in Need (14th), World Prematurity Day (17th) and this week it’s the turn of Anti-bullying week (17th-21st).  The aim of the week is to raise awareness of bullying and encourages children, young people, schools, parents and carers to come together and work towards stopping bullying for all.  There are no official statistics about the prevalence of bullying across the UK, but recent reports state that almost 45,000 children spoke to ChildLine about bullying during 2013, a worryingly high number and one that’s unlikely to scratch the surface of the problem.

Bullying is defined as Repeated incidents of physical or mental abuse (teasing, taunting, name calling, threatening, isolating) of a weaker person by a stronger person.”  Stronger is not necessarily defined by size, but also includes those who are more confident or more able to pinpoint a weakness in the person they are victimising. The sad reality is that this naturally makes disabled children or those with special educational needs a prime target for bullies and they are more likely to experience bullying in school and in the wider community that other groups.  The focus of this year’s campaign is to eradicate bullying for these vulnerable individuals in particular.

This focus has struck a particular chord with me this week as M has been dealing with some bullying over the last few weeks at school.  Some of the boys in his class have been teasing him about his allergies by saying that they are allergic to him and then pretending to be physically sick. This has had a knock-on impact in the playground, where the same children have then been avoiding playing with him, leaving him feeling isolated and on his own.  He has some good friends, who have stuck by his side and defended him when he’s felt unable to do it himself; and his big sister has lent her support too by watching out for him whenever she can and inviting him, and his friends, to join in games that she’s playing with hers.

Unfortunately, M’s complicated needs – dyspraxia, dyslexia, EGID and food allergies – make him an obvious candidate for attention from bullies, who only need the smallest difference to focus in on and attack. We’ve taught him to stand up for himself without being aggressive or rude, to ignore whenever possible the comments made and to walk away when the going gets tough; but it’s not an easy issue to tackle.  Right now, he’s anxious about their response when he finally has his tube fitted and is even worrying about how things will go next year, once G has moved on to secondary school.  Don’t get me wrong, his teacher and the school have been proactive in dealing with the bullies, but they can’t take away his fears or his belief that he’s not being heard.

Sadly he’s not on his own.  Children with complex medical needs can feel isolated by their illness as they struggle with feeling different and the questions of why they can’t be like their friends or why they are so frequently absent from school.  Even those with better known conditions, such as T1D or asthma, may have limited contact with others of the same age who are dealing with the same issues and I can only imagine how much harder it is for those with rare illnesses, who may know no-one else with the same diagnosis in their area.  A lack of true understanding about their medical needs and the impact on their everyday life can add to their frustration and the sense of being on their own.  Adding bullying to that already tumultuous mix is often a burden too many and these children may head into a downwards spiral that can result in poor self-confidence, depression and even self-harm.

What can we do?  I don’t have an easy answer to that difficult question.  As a parent I can educate my children to respect the differences of their peers and not to belittle those who don’t conform to society’s notion of “normal”.  I can encourage them to enjoy friendships with everyone and not just those who have similar interests or hobbies.  I can teach them that sometimes they won’t see eye to eye with their classmates and that those differences of opinion is what will challenge and shape their own beliefs.

And as a parent to children who stand out from the crowd, I can help them find their feet in our world, to stand strong when challenged and to see the value in their very uniqueness.

Time for a Dyspraxia update

Over the last 18 months since we received a diagnosis of dyspraxia and visual dyslexia for M, he’s been making some progress and it was good to have a review this week with his Occupational Therapist to see just how far he’s come and what he should be aiming to achieve next.  When he was first assessed, it was noted that he had significant issues with his upper body strength, which was leading to weaknesses with his fine and gross motor skills.  He struggled to hold his cutlery or pencils correctly, couldn’t tie his shoelaces, wouldn’t tackle riding his bike and had handwriting that, at best, bore a passing resemblance to ancient hieroglyphics, assuming they’d been scrawled out by a spider meandering meaninglessly across the page.

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Shoes tied by M

Meal-times have become easier, thanks to the sets of caring cutlery I invested in soon after we met his OT for the first time.  M has grown in confidence as he’s mastered the co-ordination needed to cut up his food himself, although constant reminders to actually use his cutlery are still a main feature at our dinner table!  After a year of having to ask for help to tie the laces on his football boots, M decided he was going to crack that challenge over the summer and having so determined, succeeded quicker than any of us expected, himself included, and was rewarded by 2 new pairs of trainers – with laces – whilst we were out in Florida.  As for the bike, well it’s still something of a no-go area for M right now, but the draw of being able to cycle to his godmother’s house along our local cycle-path, may be all the impetus for learning that we’re going to need this autumn.

However, the one skill that still needs a lot of work is that of his handwriting and was the key area for my discussion with his OT yesterday.  Over the last few weeks, I have been trying to track down some additional support with his literacy skills as we have become increasingly concerned that his school-work will start to suffer if an improvement isn’t made soon.  I contacted both our local Dyslexia Centre and the local branch of Dyslexia Action, to find out what support might be available to M and similar answers came back from both.  There was an opportunity for weekly, 1 hour small group sessions to develop his writing and literacy skills, but although it sounded good, there inevitably was a downside.  The sessions are only run during the day, Monday to Thursday, which would mean that he would need to miss around 2 hours of school a week, by the time you allowed for pick-up and travel.  As the helpful Dyslexia Action representative warned me, “You’ll have to get the school on board first, as they may be reluctant to allow him to miss that much school each week.”

I mused over the decision and discussed it at length with Mike.  Whilst we both know that the time is critical for M right now and he really needs that support, we are also waiting for an admission to GOSH, which will mean at least a week off school.  On top of all his other regular appointments, I felt that it was just too much time absent from his friends and his learning and so decided to put this plan on a back-burner for the time being until we have some more information about the admission.

At this point, like some sort of guardian angel, his OT expressed her own increasing concerns about his handwriting skills and suggested the perfect solution to our dilemma.  She has offered to visit M in school for an hour a week for 6 weeks and will work with him and a member of staff, teaching him how to properly form cursive handwriting and write in a size that makes his writing legible.  handwritingShe will make sure he is sitting correctly, holding his pencil in the right way and knows how each letter should be formed.  His class teacher has said that M is reluctant to use cursive writing, believing that he needs to print instead, so the OT will show him some examples of work from other children she has worked with to convince him that this is the way to go.

I am so delighted that this is being offered by an OT who is as concerned about M’s handwriting and the impact on his learning as we are and, what’s more, wants to actively do something about it. As well as teaching M the skills he needs, she will also be teaching the member of staff about what he needs to be doing in class and how they can encourage him to continue the good work once her 6 weeks are up.  M’s SENCo, who also just happens to be his class teacher this year, has already agreed that the school are happy to accommodate the OT’s visits and now I’m just waiting for confirmation of when the sessions will start.

Eye adventures

Have you ever even heard of a chalazion?  No?  Me neither, but after last weekend’s events, I now consider myself to be an expert.  It all started with what I thought was an innocent stye in G’s right eye a week ago.  Her eye was a little swollen, but I’ve suffered with styes myself over the years and simply set to bathing it regularly with cooled down boiled water and bicarbonate of soda.  I had my fingers crossed that this treatment plus a trip to our GP on Monday would do the trick – why do children always get ill on the weekend? – but luck wasn’t with any of us last weekend.

Courtesy of medypal.com

Courtesy of medypal.com

Whilst Mike and M enjoyed a fast-paced weekend of adrenalin-filled 8th birthday parties, G and I were subjected to 7 hours visiting 3 of our local hospitals.  By the time G woke up on Sunday morning, it became abundantly clear that a trip to A&E was going to be necessary.  Poor G looked like someone had whacked her in both eyes, which were heavily swollen, red, weeping and extremely tender to the touch.  The single stye appeared to have multiplied and she now had a row of them across the bottom of both eyes.  We started at our local children’s hospital, a place I’ve visited more in the last 3 months than in the past 3 years due to our bad experience with their previous care of M.  The doctor there identified that G had had an allergic reaction to something unknown and gave her an anti-histamine to start to reduce the swelling around her eyes.  However, she was concerned about the number of small lumps along G’s lower lid and referred us on to the local eye hospital, who could see G just after lunch.

Fortunately, the hospitals are within walking distance of each other and we were able to pick up the prescribed anti-histamine from the main hospital (the only hospital pharmacy open on a Sunday), grab some lunch from a coffee shop and make our way in plenty of time for G’s appointment.  Once at the eye hospital, G was diagnosed as having a series of styes as well as a chalazion, which has resulted in preseptal cellulitis, a severe inflammation and infection in her lower eyelids.  Another prescription written, this time for antibiotics, eye drops and eye ointment and a mad dash back to the hospital pharmacy to get the medicines before it closed at 3pm ended our day and G and I were finally back home by 4pm, a full 7 hours after we left it that morning.

10359040_265190260333785_8817047899935492808_oThe great news is that a few days on, the medicines and continued regular bathing and massaging of her eyes has started to work and the swelling and redness is starting to subside.  This morning her left eye looked almost back to normal and her right eye has improved hugely, though the chalazion will take a little longer to disappear and return my girl to her full beauty.  G sadly missed her last days of Year 5 due to the infection, but I’m hoping for a great summer holiday now she’s well on the road to recovery.

Three square meals a day

Last week cooking at school soared to a whole new level and, I have to confess, so did my heart rate when I first heard about it.  I love the fact that both G and M have been able to participate in cooking at school this year and have been involved every step of the way to ensure that they’ve been able to eat whatever they’ve cooked – be that by providing adapted recipes, suitable ingredients or, on occasion, a friendly alternative for them to enjoy after cooking with “normal” ingredients.  A stream of constant communication between myself, the school secretary, both class teachers and the SENCo has been key to this success.

This time round, however, the plan completely changed. The Square Food Foundation were coming into school to cook with the children, one class at a time and when I asked the obvious question – “What are they cooking?” – the school had no idea what was on the menu. The letter home had asked parents to list any food allergies as they knew that some could be accommodated, so I felt confident that G would be okay, but I wanted to understand whether M would be able to taste the food that was being taken back to the classroom after the session, or if I would need to come up with a back-up plan for him.  The Headteacher said that he would be contacting the Foundation himself to ask the question and, armed with the full list of M’s current allergies, he made the phone-call.  To my delight, he was reassured that M would be able to take part fully in the lesson and I agreed to be a parent helper for M’s class to make sure that all ingredients used were definitely safe.

20140710_094912The day eventually came, we got to school and here is where I need to make a very big apology to the organisers from the Square Food Foundation.  I caught sight of the tables and ingredients set up in the school hall and my heart sank.  I saw piles of baguettes, cartons of natural yoghurt and boxes of eggs; and I doubted what they had said.  At first glance I couldn’t see how M could possibly be able to taste the food with those ingredients involved and we started the lesson with me quickly trying to work out if I could fit in a quick dash home to pick up something M-friendly for the tasting afterwards.  However, I was wrong.  As they discussed the different ingredients they’d be using, the children were asked what they thought they could prepare using the eggs and oil:

Fried eggs“….”something yummy“….”something I can’t eat

(you can guess who that last response came from)

Ah yes.  You must be the young chap with food allergies.  What can’t you eat?

20140710_093537As I reeled off the list, the man in charge sagely nodded his head, “Then you will be in our houmous team” and with that comment, all become clear.  The plan was to prepare 3 different dips – houmous, aioli and tzatziki – and assorted crudites during the 30 minutes cooking time.  The class was quickly divided into 3 equal groups and sent to 3 banks of tables, where all the necessary ingredients and equipment were ready and waiting for them. The children had an amazing time.  They were trusted to use sharp knives to chop the vegetables and crush the garlic.  They drizzled the oil, squeezed the lemons and ground the cumin seeds.  20140710_094403Finally, they mixed the ingredients together and plated up their finished houmous and crudites for the class to admire and enjoy.

All 3 dips looked amazing and I am assured by M that the houmous was delicious.  It was a great morning’s activity and I know that G enjoyed her chance to make aioli later in the day too.  So it’s a very big “Thank you” to all the members of the Square Food Foundation who came to the school, taught some new skills to the children and made no fuss about meeting the needs of M in such an amazing way.

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Allergy Adventures

adventureIn my recent blog about the Allergy and Freefrom show in London, I mentioned in passing the wonderful Allergy Adventures, who M was keen to visit during our day at the show.  We first discovered Allergy Adventures at last year’s show and were so impressed with their products that we’ve kept going back for more.

Allergy Adventures was set up by the lovely Hailey, who explains her reasons for starting the company on her website.  She produces beautifully illustrated children’s books that take the reader on a magical journey inside their lunchbox, accompanied by a character with the same food allergy as them as they look for safe foods to enjoy.  Each book focuses on one main allergen and teaches the child “how to tell others about their allergy and stay safe around food.” These books are bright and colourful and drew M’s attention last year as we wandered the stalls of the Allergy show.  Whilst he and G joined in with some paper-plate crafts – an absolute godsend to any parent who wanted a break from complaints of aching legs due to the amount of walking needed – Mike and I flicked through the books.

Stickers_5_largeUnfortunately, due to the extent of M’s allergies, there isn’t one particular book that we could buy for him to enjoy and to share with his friends, but there was another product that caught my eye and which I snapped up in an instant.  These fantastic “stickers” have proved invaluable in labelling any pots, products or boxes that go into school for M’s use.  His lunchbox, water bottle, medicine pots and individual tupperware containers all have a sticker, indicating that the contents are M-friendly and for his use only.  Even the children’s swap-boxes have a couple of “Hands off” stickers, so that everyone knows that they are specifically for G and M.  What I particularly love about these stickers is that they create a positive association with his food for M.  Rather than focusing on the “free-from” label and listing what he can’t eat, they instead stress that the food is special because it belongs to M or G and not to anyone else – a great message for my allergy-challenged boy.

Earlier this year, Allergy Adventures also produced an amazing allergy-friendly cooking guide, which lists out easy substitutions that can be made when baking or cooking for someone with food allergies.  Not only does it make sensible suggestions about replacement products to use, but the notes highlight key areas to consider when using alternatives.  Best of all, this has been produced as a free resource and can be found by following this link. With plans afoot for creating more resources to support children with allergies both in hospital and in schools, this is definitely one to watch.

After our first hour or so at the show, we finally listened to M’s request and headed for the Allergy Adventures area.  Once again both G and M created paper-plate masterpieces, whilst resting their aching feet and Mike and I had a break from their moans, for a few minutes anyway.  I grabbed the opportunity to catch up with Hailey, who I chatter with on Twitter and 10outot10also the fabulous Vicki, the FreeFrom Fairy, another Twittersphere friend.  Once G and M had finished their creations, they were captured on film for the Allergy Adventures video all about the 2014 Allergy show.  There’s really nothing more to add.  This is a great set of resources for anyone with a child with food allergies and I would really recommend you spend some time exploring everything Allergy Adventures has to offer, it definitely won’t be time wasted.

 

‘looming marvellous!

I know, without a shadow of a doubt, that G & M are not the only children across the UK, or indeed the developed world, who are currently obsessed with the latest craze to sweep the nation:  Loom-bands.  Every day as the children walk up to school with their friends, we pass child after child sporting an armful of bracelets made from these brightly coloured elastic bands.  Mike and I even have our own growing collection, consisting of bracelets and rings made by both G and M, in a variety of colours and patterns.

For the uninitiated amongst you, and I know there will be a few, you can create a range of unique jewellery, or charms, or just about anything else you think you might like, from relatively little.  All you need is:

one of these....

one of these….

...a lot of these...

…a lot of these…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

…a vivid imagination and an endless supply of patience.

From the simple single-loom bracelet (where we unwittingly started before I knew that each pattern had a name) to the Starburst and the Inverted Fishtail, my children have been kept occupied for hours designing and making a constant stream of new creations for us to admire.  I have discovered loom-bands lurking in unexpected places and have had to think on my feet to enable emergency repairs when, at the last moment, a previously undiscovered fatal flaw threatens the final piece of art.

Just some of the children's creations

Just some of the children’s creations

I love this latest craze.  It’s not prohibitively expensive as you can pick up a bag of 600 bands and 24 s-clips for under £1; it appeals to both boys and girls, with M and his friends spending time during their mid-morning or lunch-time break to teach each other new techniques; and my pair are spending time after school to work on their bands together, rather than spending the time arguing.

Even better, it is proving to be a great way for M to hone his fine motor skills, which is such a critical part of the occupational therapy for his dyspraxia.  Putting the bands onto the loom is tricky and he has to focus on what he is doing to make sure they go in the right places.  M has also taught himself how to make some of the different patterns using just his fingers, which is really challenging the strength and mobility of his fingers and hands.  We’re yet to see whether this activity improves his pencil grip and his motor skills, but I’m grateful we’ve found something he loves to do which should prove to be extremely beneficial.

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Back to basics

I’ve noticed that recently a lot of my blog posts have highlighted the challenges we have with feeding M and our inevitable focus on home cooking to manage his dietary needs.  It’s not that his EGID diagnosis has disappeared or changed as there is a lot going on in the background that I’ve yet to find the words to express, but rather that his food is a primary focus in his life right now.  The children and I have been talking a lot about them becoming more involved in the kitchen at home and learning a few simple recipes that they will eventually be able to prepare by and for themselves.  I really feel that this is a crucial skill for them both to learn because of their current food allergies and the need to prepare meals from scratch to avoid unwanted reactions.

basketI still remember the joys of Home Economics at school – arriving at school once a week, weighed down by not only my school bag and books, but also a basket containing all the necessary ingredients and paraphernalia needed for that day’s recipe.  I don’t remember many of the meals I lovingly attempted in class, though I have a vivid recollection of the challenge of recreating Shakespeare’s Globe theatre from food following a school trip to Stratford-upon-Avon!

These days learning to cook, even the basics, appears to be gradually dropping off the National Curriculum here in the UK, unless chosen specifically by the child as a subject for more in-depth study.  Recent news reports have commented on the increasing trends of young people unable to identify fruits and vegetables on sight, showing a lack of understanding of how diet impacts on their health and unable to cook even a simple meal for themselves and their families.  The huge increase in availability of ready-cook meals and the emergence of the handy microwave means that many of the younger generations have no idea of how to prepare a balanced, nutritious and delicious meal from scratch.  There is a widely-held belief that cooking from scratch requires long hours of hard labour, which makes it untenable for anyone who works full-time; but I know that just isn’t so.

microwaveI almost always cook from scratch and not just because of the complex nature of M’s diet. I enjoy the experience of creating a meal from a few ingredients and find it a great way to release tension at the end of a long day in the office.  Don’t get me wrong, I wholeheartedly believe that there are times when nothing can beat a prepared dish that simply requires a few pokes with a fork and less than 10 minutes waiting for that “ping” to indicate that dinner is served, but I do think that there’s nothing better than an honest home-cooked meal to finish the day.  There are times when I don’t want to cook, especially if the children are being particularly trying and there is nothing more disheartening than having your hard work pushed around the plate before the child in question – usually G – states that “they’ve had enough” and “please may they get down from the table”; but I hold firm in my statement that the highs definitely outweigh the lows most of the time.

junior masterchef

I don’t know how much cooking G and M will be taught during their school life and so we have gently embarked on some home cooking lessons instead.  The meals we cook might not set the culinary world alight right now, but I hope that, with a little perseverance and a lot of practice, I’ll end up with 2 competent and confident cooks by the time they eventually leave home.  I hope to be able to teach them how to adapt recipes to meet whatever their current dietary requirements without batting an eyelid and show them that we all need to learn to laugh at our mistakes, brush ourselves off and give it another go.  Ultimately, I want 2 children who learn to love food and experience the joys of having that hard work rewarded with a tasty meal and people who enjoy what they’re eating.