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The Allergy & Free From Show North, Liverpool

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As you may remember, we attended the amazing Allergy & Free From show in London back at the beginning of June. I wrote about the varied M-friendly products that we discovered – old favourites as well as some that were new, not just to us, but also to the market.  We spent a long day there and could have easily managed a second day investigating everything available as well as allowing the children to nibble and taste foods along the way.

The stall holders at the event were well-informed and friendly, understanding the need to answer our questions without losing our interest.  We discovered the amazing Frank* bars, new flavours of Koko Coconut milk and B-free wraps to name but a few.

Just a few of the amazing products we picked up from the London show

Just a few of the amazing products we picked up from the London show

So, I was delighted to learn that there will be a similar show this October for those living further North in the UK for the second year running.  The trek to London is not easy, although 21,000 visitors made the effort to visit in June, especially when you live hours away, so it may be that the Liverpool show is a better location for you.

What is even better news, is that if you decide to make this a day out, you are able to access unlimited free tickets for either day, saving £10.00 per person, just by visiting www.allergyshow.co.uk/go/7yearstodiagnosis.

Have a great time there – I can promise that you won’t be disappointed!

This summer

This summer has not been the sunny, fun-filled and relaxing one we were hoping for.  This summer has thrown up a few unexpected bumps in the road which we’ve had to negotiate whilst trying to hang on to our sanity.  This summer has had its highs and its lows, but we’ve got there in the end and have lived to tell the tale, just.

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Courtesy of i360life.com

I haven’t been able to share the truth about this summer before now because this summer has been incredibly hard on M.  It is only now that we are through the worst and have a plan of action, that I feel able to talk about it.  I have made numerous phone-calls to GOSH to try and reach a place that has left us all feeling reassured and relatively happy.

At the beginning of July, M had an abdominal x-ray as well as starting on his new medicine, Nalcrom, but we had seen no improvement for him.  To my complete surprise, the x-ray showed that M was chronically constipated and impacted all the way from his colon to his rectum.  The first thing to tackle was clearing his system out, thereby giving him a fighting chance to recover the toileting improvements that he’d experienced at the start of the year.

This meant the return of our old friend, Movicol, a softening laxative that enables the body to better pass the stools without too much pain.  We had used it when G was struggling with her own gastro difficulties, but the intervening 3 or 4 years had rendered my memory somewhat hazy as to how to manage this medicine.  However, for once I felt confident that I knew what I was dealing with.

The plan was to embark on a routine that would see M taking an increasing dose of Movicol to enable the fecal impaction to be cleared from his body.  Once this happened, he would need to continue on a maintenance level to keep his system moving until our next appointment at GOSH in October. Whilst this may sound easy enough, at the maximum level we were asking M to drink an extra 500mls of medicine a day and one that he hated taking and it was a struggle every step of the way.

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Courtesy of myblogz.us

The downside was that, whilst on the increased dosage, M would suffer from even more chronic diarrhoea until the blockage was out and I knew that he would really struggle with this proposal.  Just imagine the horror of being an active 7 year-old boy with minimal control of your bowels and a fear that someone might find out and make fun of you.

On the flipside, the advantage of being in the summer holidays was that we could tackle the problem thoroughly and hopefully resolve it fully before M starts at his new school in September.  I suggested to M that for the relatively short time he was on the medicine he returned to wearing a pull-up.  This would solve any embarrassing incidents whilst we were out and about during the summer and would give him the reassurance that other people wouldn’t know when he soiled himself.  He reluctantly agreed, being obviously torn between the nightmare of wearing pull-ups as a 7 year old and that of being unable to control his bowel when in public.

The first 14 days were hell, but the medicine did its thing and progress seemed to have been made.  He struggled to cope and his fears of discovery and frustrations about his toileting spilled over into his day-to-day behaviour and those of us closest, Mike, G and me, suffered the consequences.  He and I spent time together, seeing who could shout out louder and rant and rave more about how unfair the situation was.  M needed to scream out the tension because it was unfair. Unfair that my beautiful, bright 7 year old was once again subject to the fraility of his body and couldn’t be like all of his friends.  Unfair that I had to hold him sobbing once more because he just couldn’t understand why all this was happening to him and didn’t know how to cope. Unfair that the one person in the world who should be able to make it all better (me), couldn’t guarantee that there was an end in sight. His one over-riding fear was that he would need to continue to wear the pull-ups when he went back to school.  The hardest thing for me was not being able to reassure him 100% that that wouldn’t be the case.  We hope it won’t be for his sake, but as I’ve quickly learned, there are no guarantees especially when it comes to this condition.

Unfortunately, despite the promising start, we discovered blood in a number of his stools as well as mucous, both of which are an indicator of intestinal damage.  Having a plan in place, even if contains new tests and possibly more medicines, means that I know we will get to the point of some answers, although they might not be as conclusive as we would want.

Feeling normal

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One of the hardest parts of M’s EGID journey is that he no longer feels like a normal child and is massively aware that he stands out from the crowd.  Every day is filled with numerous medicines to be taken, carefully planned meals, aches, pains and a constant awareness of needing to make sure he gets to the toilet on time.  As I’ve alluded to before, M is incredibly self-conscious about his condition and spends a great deal of time worrying that he will be picked on or bullied because of his illness and restricted diet.  He has a tendency to isolate himself in group situations with his peers, though he will spend hours chatting to any available adult who’s prepared to listen.

We refuse to let his chronic illness get in the way of his life any more than is necessary, so he goes to school, takes part in after-school clubs and has friends home for tea just like all his friends.  However, every new thing he participates in has to be carefully assessed and I spend a lot of time talking to teachers and organisers about M, his condition and the consequences they might have to deal with.  We have been lucky that we have never come across anyone who isn’t prepared to work with M’s needs and accommodate them so that he can take part.

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A recent week has been a perfect example of how wonderful it can be when M can feel like part of the crowd and not stand out for being so different.

Both G and M have been attending our local Stagecoach theatre school for a number of years and enjoy performing.  They were lucky enough to be part of the 25th Anniversary celebrations for Stagecoach back in March and took part in a massive performance of CATS at the Birmingham Indoor Arena.  We are also avid theatre-goers and love nothing more than seeing a musical on stage.  When I heard that the Youth Music Theatre Academy (YMTA) were running a drama workshop for a week this summer and that they were going to be learning and performing routines from a hit West-end musical, I knew I had to sign the 2 of them up.

G and M have been excited about this opportunity for weeks and, since the start of the summer holidays, have been counting down the days until the course began.  By some strange quirk of fate, Mike and I had booked tickets to take them to see this show on tour the weekend before the workshop began, long before we even knew about the course and it was the perfect introduction to the week.  What made the performance even more special was that some of the cast members were coming out to teach on the course during the week and we spent the interval musing over who the kids might get to meet.

The only grey cloud on the horizon was the difficult time M was going through with his health in the lead up to the course.  By the Thursday of the week before, it was evident that he wasn’t going to find the week easy and I needed to be on site with him for those “just in case” moments that might happen.  Fortunately, Jo (the course organiser) had no issue with my presence and welcomed me and M on board with an excitement that meant a lot.  When you have a child who’s chronically ill, then it’s these little acts of inclusion that make all the difference.

I spent the week sitting quietly with my trusty laptop, tablet, mobile phone and books in a corner tucked away from view, armed with snacks, coffee and anything and everything M might need.  The children knew I was there as a security blanket for them both, but I wasn’t an ever-present reminder that there was anything wrong, especially to those who were meeting M for the first time.  He sang, danced and acted his heart out, learning new routines, perfecting familiar songs and most of all, having an amazing and fun time.  We managed his medicine and his toileting with the minimum of fuss and I doubt that any of the other children really realised that there was anything different about him.

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YMTA – this Oscar’s for you!

The Friday performance to the parents was fantastic and a real testament to the talents of those who had happily given of their time that week to teach the youngsters some new skills.  We were amazed by how much had been achieved in such a short amount of time. My thanks have to go to Jo, Rosie, Joe, Holly and Zach, who didn’t let M’s EGID phase them, but supported and encouraged him every step of the way.  He had an amazing time and can’t wait for the next workshop to be arranged!  Best of all, M had a week where his health didn’t stop him from taking part and he was able to feel and be as normal as any other child who was there.

My child with Super powers

As a parent, we all go through that experience of self-doubt and belief that we’re doing it all wrong.  As a parent of an unique child, a child with unexpected needs, that self-doubt is part of your every waking moment.  You begin to wonder if it’s something that you did, right or wrong, that has led to the position you find yourself in.

A good friend recently sent Mike and me a link to this wonderful blog post that really spoke to her, and our, hearts.   Through it I discovered the truth that I have children with super powers, rather than with special needs.

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Courtesy of kotaku.com

We all know that it’s not easy being a parent and when you add into that mix an illness or condition or special need for your child, you rapidly begin to wonder why.  Almost every day I question why M has this condition.  Is it something I did, or didn’t do during my pregnancy?  Is it faulty genetics on my side, or on MIke’s, that have led to these problems?  Could I have done anything to change the outcome that my boy has to live with?  Of course, the answer is no.  He is who he is and who God made him.  I don’t have the answers as to why his life has been so medically complicated and why he continues to have to fight a daily battle for good health, but I also can’t live my life playing the blame game.

I struggle when talking to expectant Mums who are holding forth that they don’t mind whether they have a boy or a girl as long as the baby is healthy.  I remember saying the same thing myself, so why is it that that wasn’t the card we got dealt?  I smile and nod and bite my tongue, because I can’t promise that for them that’ll be their experience.  I hope it is, I really do, but I know that there are no guarantees in life.  We are the exception to that rule.

During a recent conversation, I was asked whether I wished I could turn the clocks back and make different decisions to those I made 10 years ago.  I didn’t have to stop and think because I know the answer. No.  The mountains may be high and treacherous, but the view from the top is amazing and my answer is no.  The valleys can be dark and bleak, but the sunshine reaches down and touches those darkest of places and the answer is no.  I may get knocked down far more times that I thought possible and struggle to get back up and keep on with the fight, but my answer is still no.  I would love for life to be easier for both M and G, I wish for their medical problems to disappear in a heartbeat, but I love them and I love being a parent to children with super powers, even if the going is sometimes really, really tough.

Lake Huron, Canada

Lake Huron, Canada

Proud Mummy moments

A little while ago, I wrote a post about everyone needing a hero and pondered on who M and G would adopt as their heroes as they got older.  This week I’m adding to my choice of heroes and am including my children at the top of my list.

In their own ways, they have been brilliant over the last few weeks and I am so proud of them both.  This post is a tribute to them and their awesomeness and will act as a good reminder to me on those occasions when they’re pushing my patience to its very limits.

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Marvellous M

This week I’ve had M’s school report and Stagecoach report to enjoy.  I was equally thrilled with both.  I expected the Stagecoach report to be glowing, after all, as his drama teacher stated, “M was born to perform on the stage”, but I was a little more apprehensive about his school report.  I know his behaviour is impeccable there, but academically this has been a tough year.  The last 5 weeks, since we got the dyspraxia/dyslexia diagnosis, have seen a real turn-around in his attitude to his school-work.  All the aids we’ve put into place have seen him make huge strides forward and he’s much more confident in how well he can do.

To my delight, we also finally got to see the short charity film that M took part in about 6 weeks ago.  It focussed on Domestic violence and is hard-hitting though not overly graphic.  He performed well and enjoyed every moment of the filming.

He’s also understood that G has had to focus on her own school-work (see more details below) and has given her space to just sit down and get on with it.  I was immensely proud of his attitude on the last night of working on it, when he had to entertain himself for the best part of 2 hours as G and I reviewed, finalised and polished her final effort.  I heard not a word of complaint from him and he regularly checked in with me to make sure I knew where he was and what he was up to.

However, it’s not just his reports that have made him my hero this week.  It has been his approach and stoicism to taking his medicine.  As I’ve mentioned several times, his recent flare-up has been hard and has really knocked his faith that things would improve.  The revolution of Grandma’s jam, as mentioned in a previous post, has helped enormously when it comes to his new medicine.

To put it simply, he’s taking it.  Despite feeling poorly, hating the taste and with a depleted appetite, M is taking all his medicines every day without argument, or at least with the minimum of fuss, because he knows he needs to and there is still a small spark of hope that this will help hiding somewhere inside.

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Gorgeous G

I’ve also had the pleasure of G’s music, school and Stagecoach reports to read.  Each report commented on her hard work, positive attitude and determination to give 100% to every new task set.  Despite her nerves, she has performed solos on her clarinet at school and in the end of term performance for Stagecoach and really gave her all.  She listens well, takes instructions and applies them to the task in hand.  She doesn’t have M’s academic struggles to cope with, but she does have to deal with me having to give attention to M at home when they’re doing their homework and she’s worked hard to complete as much of hers on her own as she can.

Mr.G, G’s teacher this year, praised her for being “always cheerful, courteous, co-operative and helpful…very reliable and always willing to help with a smile”; whilst her Head teacher commented that it was an “impressive report” and her continued efforts would see her having a “very successful Year 5.”

G has been working incredibly hard over the last 5 weeks on a project for school, where she had to choose her own topic and complete independent study and research for it.  She decided to write about Canada and has spent her time reading reference books, researching on the internet and talking not only to Mike, but her cousins and grandparents too.  The piece of work she has produced is amazing and she is rightly proud of it.  She finished it by preparing a powerpoint presentation and photo montage to show in class, which was a learning experience for us both as it’s not a piece of software I’ve particularly used before.

Most importantly, despite her disagreements with M and the frequent sibling wars we have in the house, G has also been aware of M’s struggles with his new medicine and has encouraged and cheered him on every step of the way. She has given him massive support and has managed to coax him to take “just one more mouthful” when he’s found it especially difficult and my powers of persuasion are failing.  M is very lucky to have a big sister who will hold his hand and let him cuddle her teddy bear when times are rough.

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Sometimes my children are a challenge and I find myself rolling my eyes as I pull them apart for what feels like the twentieth time that day.  Sometimes I want to disappear from their world and just go back to being “me” – not head chef, not referee, not problem-solver extraordinaire.  Today, I’m happy and proud to be Mummy and to shout out loud about all their achievements.

There's nothing like team-work!

There’s nothing like team-work!

School’s out for summer!

I have that song by Alice Cooper bouncing around in my mind as I type.  I wish I could have it playing in the background as you link to this blog post, but the best I can do is point you to this You Tube clip.

We’re in the final stretch of the school year and the end is tantalisingly close.  G finishes school tomorrow and M has one last day on Monday.  The promise of 6 weeks of summer (well I can but dream) to enjoy is wonderful.  A time for us all to rest, recuperate, have some fun and hopefully see M return to better health for the start at his new school in September.

The last 2 weeks have been mixed.

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Courtesy of telegraph.co.uk

Last weekend, Mike took the kids away on a “Dads and Kids” camping weekend, organised by other Dads in our church.  The weather was amazing, they had a great weekend, got to build on some fantastic friendships and I got to have a weekend off!  I wish I could say I spent the weekend doing nothing but relaxing and spoiling myself, but the reality is that I spent the weekend catching up on some long overdue household chores – ironing in this temperature is no mean feat – and trying to stay cool.

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Courtesy of export-forum.com

Unfortunately, M’s hoarse throat on Friday afternoon turned into, well, I’m not 100% certain what it turned into, but it might have been croup or a heavy cold or a chest infection or any combination of the above.  By Sunday evening, his temperature had shot up to over 39 °C and that started 3 days of a very poorly M.  He had a sore throat, high temperature, complete loss of appetite, croup-like cough, no energy to do more than sit and watch TV and felt sick every time he took his new medicine.

The problem is for M that he just has no reserves to fall back on when he becomes ill.  His body can’t cope with the illness and his EGID symptoms will typically flare too.  He has, however, headed back to school today; the lure of the Year 2 leavers’ disco after school being too great for even my poorly boy to ignore.  It is such a shame that he has missed 3 days off this week as he moves on from the school at the end of term and will miss his friends.

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Courtesy of yola.com

Our plans for the summer holidays are simple.  Mike and I will spend most of our weeks working, whilst G and M spend some time with my Mum.  We are off to Portugal for a week once again and I’m already beginning to plan what foods I will need to take with us.  The time I have at home will be spent playing in the garden, investigating our local area and trying out some new baking recipes that I’ve been given by friends.  Most importantly, we will be trying to encourage M’s body to recover and hopefully see a return of his appetite. The hot weather at the moment isn’t helping, but I would love to see him eating as much as he was even a fortnight ago.  We don’t have any return visits to GOSH planned until October, but I will be putting in another call to the gastro team this week to see if there’s anything else we should be doing or if they do want to see him ahead of the next appointment.

Most importantly, my plans include ice lollies…lots and lots of M-friendly ice lollies!

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Courtesy of lovefood.com

Grandma’s Jam

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A couple of weeks ago, as we were talking about him starting his new medicine soon, the impact of this current flare up on M became evident as he sobbed in my arms “What’s the point Mummy?  The medicine won’t work because none of them are making me better”.

To hear that your 7 year old is feeling that low and despondent simply breaks your heart. I struggled with knowing how to encourage him to try yet another medicine, knowing that so far our 2 year journey hasn’t waved the magic wand we’d all been hoping for and, whilst things are so much better than they were back then, there’s still an uphill struggle to face.

The biggest battle was finding a way for M to take it.  He has to take this one 4 times a day, which means I have to send it into school and can’t send it in its capsule form because he finds that too difficult to swallow, though he continues to persevere to take it the “grown-up” way.  The registrar at GOSH suggested we broke the capsule and mixed the powder into a drink or his meal.  The taste is vile and tainted everything we tried.  He didn’t like it mixed into his food or drink and I was left scratching my head about this one.

As I sat at the kitchen table wondering how to avoid pinning M to the ground and forcibly pouring it into his mouth – don’t laugh, I’ve been there before – I knew where to seek the advice I was after.  Thanks once again to the amazing FABED community, I got a great suggestion which would not only make it more palatable for M, but also easy for the school to administer.

Jam.

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A spoonful of jam into which you mix the contents of the capsule is an ideal M-sized mouthful and one that he’s willing to take.  Grandma’s home-made jam, sent all the way from Canada, is the perfect vessel for his new medicine.  He loves Grandma’s peach jam anyway, but his preference for his medicine is strawberry.  Fortunately, a care parcel arrived at the beginning of July containing 3 new jars of the strawberry elixir and that will certainly help.

SAM_1309The only question now is, having discovered the secret to successful medicine-giving for M, just how long this little lot will last?!

7 jars and counting

7 jars and counting

The psychiatrist’s couch

The thing about blogging is that, as well as sharing our experiences with others and maybe helping those who are facing similar journeys, it has become a form of cheap therapy for me.  I can pour my heart out into my words, delete those that needed to be said, but not shared and publish the rest for the world to see and comment on.  For those of you who know me well, you will understand that I’m not very good at sharing when I’m struggling with life, even to my nearest and dearest, and yet I can express my emotions through a few deft strokes on the keyboard almost without pause.

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My Mum, who I know will be reading this and rolling her eyes (and yes, the phone-call will come later), frequently says she doesn’t understand the need to share everything with the world at large which so many of us do these days, be it through blogging or social media such as Facebook or Twitter.  Is there an easy or obvious answer to that why?  I can’t comment on why others share the most intimate details of their mundane lives, but I know why I do it.  I have a story to tell and life experiences to share.  When I started my blog I couldn’t anticipate how many people would read and follow my musings, but as I approach the 2,000th view of my blog, I am flattered that people have read something that has resonated with them.  I know that some posts will be far more therapeutic for me than interesting for you, my reader, and I thank you that you’re prepared to bear with me and keep on reading.

The rest of today’s post is very much in that vein as life with M is proving difficult right now and I need to lie down and share from the psychiatrist’s couch.

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Since M’s relapse back in April, we have been waiting for his system to settle and for things to improve and return us to where we had been at the start of the year.  Our GOSH appointment in May had reassured us that his gut would repair and they spoke positively about the possibility of trialling one of his forbidden foods and even reducing his medication over the next 6 months.

Unfortunately, life hasn’t turned out that way and instead we are caught in a downward spiral and seem to be sinking fast.  Our weekend at Legoland was a real step back to where we had been and much nearer the beginning of our journey then we were happy to be. As well as the return of multiple soiling accidents with chronic diarrhoea, M has suffered from stomach cramps, overwhelming tiredness, fluctuating appetite and blood in his stools.  He is obviously struggling with his emotions and frustrations and is just generally out-of-sorts.

My conversation with our ever-wonderful dietician last week confirmed my inclination to speak to M’s gastro team as we really need to get him back on track.  I was worried that we would be asked to remove something further from his already restricted diet, but the registrar told me that that wasn’t the way forward right now.  Instead, we are introducing another medicine into the mix to try and suppress the reactions he’s experiencing and are being sent to our local hospital for an abdominal x-ray.

There are no easy answers to this problem for the time being.  We don’t know why his small body has  gone back into hyper-drive in response to the food allergies and we are feeling helpless in our inability to regain some semblance of control.  If the x-ray is clear, which we’re expecting it to be, then the next logical step is another set of scopes, but that isn’t an easy decision to make because of M’s problems with anaesthetic.  We also know that we still haven’t removed the possibility of moving M to the elemental diet from the table either and that seems like a daunting prospect.

The one thing I have learned from the wonderful families we met through FABED is that we’re not on our own and that however hard the next step might seem to us, there will be somebody else out there who has walked that path before us and will hold our hands along the way.

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What’s more, a cup of tea or coffee and a chance to escape the EGID world, even for half an hour, is great therapy too.

Fabulous FABED!

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We have once again enjoyed a busy weekend.  Thanks to the wonderful organisational skills of the dedicated group of parents who set up FABED back in 2005 to support parents and families of children with EGID, we enjoyed an amazing weekend at Legoland Windsor.

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What made this weekend so special was that it was organised with our EGID children in mind.  A full day to meet other families who are carrying the same load as us and who know how it feels to be fighting a never-ending daily battle that most of our friends just can’t comprehend.  An opportunity for M to meet children who are just like him, suffer from the same condition and have to live with multiple food-allergies to a greater or lesser extent.  A chance for G to meet others whose siblings are constantly in hospital, or making hospital visits and who are often the focus of so much attention.

We met bright and early on Saturday morning and were delighted to see that there were in the region of 40 families there, all of whom had at least 1 child with EGID, though we got to know one family where all 4 children were affected to some degree.  This was our first FABED event, but were instantly made to feel welcome and amongst friends.  We recognised some familiar faces from the Allergy Show a couple of weeks ago and both M and G instantly made some new friends.

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Unfortunately M suffered a bad day, but we had the advantage of being able to seek refuge in the suite at the amazing Legoland Hotel.  There was a dedicated medical room to provide privacy for those who needed it for feeding or medical purposes.  The Suite itself had tea and coffee-making facilities for the parents and a play area filled with Lego for the children to enjoy.  We took an hour and a half out of the day to give M some much needed downtime and the children enjoyed attempting to build the biggest tower possible with some of their new friends.

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The evening showed just how much hard work and thought had gone into making this an unparalleled get-together.  A buffet dinner was provided for the FABED families, with full details of all ingredients used to prepare the dishes and options available to cater for even the most difficult of diets.  Those children unable to eat were able to spend time in the play area, which was next door but out of sight of the food.  M was delighted to be able to choose from such a wide selection of foods and we were reassured that we knew what each dish contained and what he could and couldn’t eat.

As soon as we heard about this day out, we knew we’d be going along.  It would have taken something extreme to keep us away.  M feels so alone in his allergy world that the opportunity to show that he really isn’t on his own and to allow him to chat and get to know other EGID sufferers was one that we couldn’t turn down.  He made particular friends with young R, who is a year older, but feels the same emotions and frustrations as M.  They were able to have an honest chat and M values this new friend who is “just like me Mummy, but he can eat even less, sometimes has to be tube fed and has accidents too.” R’s big sister, F, was a great source of comfort to G also as they share the same experiences of a younger brother with EGID as well as struggling with their own food allergies.

I also got to meet the delightful mumannie123, who writes the blog, Food for Thought: Boweled over by food allergies, recipes and advice.  We have got to know each other a little over the last couple of weeks through our respective blogs, so it was wonderful to finally put a face to the name and spend some real time chatting.  We have discovered that we live in the same part of the world, so I’m looking forward to perhaps being able to meet in person as time allows, as there is nothing quite like having a friend who understands what you’re going through from firsthand experience.

We made the decision to make a weekend of it and stayed the night at the Hotel in an Adventurers Room.  The lego models and details in these rooms are astounding:

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This weekend has been a truly fabulous weekend and my heartfelt thanks go out to FABED and Legoland Windsor for accommodating such a complex range of needs and ensuring that so many families were able to enjoy as normal a day out as possible when dealing with illness.  To this family, at very least, it has made a huge difference and has given us a great resource for support for this journey that we now know we are not travelling on our own.

The final answer?

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Having taken a week’s hiatus from the story of our journey to a diagnosis to blog about our week on M’s diet, I wanted to just go back a few months and finish the story of getting to where we are today.

In September 2012, we had now reached what appeared to be a status quo for M, which though still not ideal, was vastly improved from the position we’d been in less that 18 months earlier. He was taking 5 lots of different medicines during the day to cope with his symptoms – 2 anti-histamines, 1 calcium supplement, 1 probiotic and the protein shake – and was still dairy, egg, wheat and soya free in his diet.

We survived day trips, weekends away and even a two week holiday to Canada to visit Mike’s family and had come through them all relatively unscathed. M was growing taller by the day, though his weight continued to be a concern. We only suffered with a couple of bouts of croup and the household coughs and colds didn’t appear to have any ill-effect on him. There was the occasional, inadvertent slip-up with his food and we all suffered the consequences of those, but we quickly identified what had caused the problem and realised that, for the time being at very least, M would need to continue on his strict diet.

Christmas 2012 came and went as did G’s birthday and both occasions were celebrated with M-friendly food. 2012 had been a tough year for us all for very many reasons and it was good to finally see it leave and be able to look forward to a brighter 2013.

The beginning of January 2013 saw us returning to GOSH for an appointment with M’s consultant. This time round we were able to make it a family trip as the children had yet to return to school and so all 4 of us spent 2 days in the Capital. Mike and I were determined to get some answers this time round. We felt that whilst we had made huge progress with M, we still weren’t in a place that was ideal for any concerned. We didn’t know what we could expect, but we were desperate for a diagnosis and a clear plan in place for the foreseeable future.

The appointment started in usual fashion with a quick overview from our standpoint of how things were going since we had last been there. I had spoken to Dr Hill in the run up to Christmas and she was concerned by the continued frequency of M’s soiling accidents. I was able to report that little had changed since my conversation with her and so she suggested that we took the step of taking gluten out of M’s diet too. At this point, Mike lost it a little and expressed just how frustrated we all were with the lack of knowledge we had about what was wrong with M. We both felt that they were continuing to limit his safe foods without having a good reason for doing so.

She looked at us amazed and asked what exactly he meant. To cut a long story short, it turns out that there had, in fact, been a diagnosis in place since the previous April, but not one of the gastro team we had seen during the past 9 months had thought to advise us of it. I’m sure that many of you would imagine us to be fuming at this apparent incompetence, but, to be perfectly honest, both Mike and I were just extremely grateful that we now had a name to put to M’s condition.

The diagnosis was EGID – Eosinophilic Gastro-Intestinal Disease – a relatively rare and fairly recently identified family of gastric diseases, which fall into the bigger category of Inflammatory Bowel Disease. There is no need for me to bore you with the finer details (you can read a much better explanation here anyway), but it is an auto-immune condition that sees the eosinophils, which are a part of the white blood cells, attacking the body itself instead of the allergen.

For those among you with the better memories, this is indeed the exact condition I had tentatively self-diagnosed during 2012 (see here) and so, for me, this diagnosis was something I already knew a lot about and knew we could manage. I had sourced some fabulous support groups and had already joined them in the belief that this was the road we were destined to be travelling. We now felt empowered and able to take this diagnosis and run with it. The Dietetics team agreed to write a letter to M’s school explaining his condition and the impact it could have on him, which we hoped would enable some support and understanding that had previously been lacking.

We could also now educate both M and G about his condition. You could palpably sense the relief that M had simply by being able to put a name to his condition and he has a reasonable understanding of what’s going on in his body. It doesn’t make it any easier when you trying to explain to the 7 year old why he can’t eat a particular item, but he has grasped the reasons for the reactions his body is experiencing and is learning to accept the current limitations.

We also learned that we were in the best possible place to receive care for a child with EGID. GOSH is a leading light in the research world for understanding more about this family of diseases and is considered to most certainly be on par with the US in terms of their research. This was never going to be something M could outgrow, despite the reassurances of our local hospitals, but we could and would learn to live with it and to make the best of a difficult situation.